Woman Dumps Boyfriend of 4 Years After He Calls Her ‘Tight-Fisted’ for Not Agreeing to His Plans for Her Inheritance

A woman says she recently ended a relationship with her boyfriend of four years after a dispute over money — and while she’s currently questioning her decision, Redditors say she should have no regrets.

The 29-year-old shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I Overreacting?” forum, where she explained that she recently received an unexpected inheritance of $12,000.

“I was really excited because I had plans to pay off some debts and maybe invest a bit for my future,” she wrote.

She says she thought her boyfriend, 31, would be happy for her, but he instead “immediately started pushing this idea that we should spend about half of it on a fancy home renovation.”

“I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that idea and that I had my own plans for the money,” the woman wrote, adding that’s when he “blew up” at her, calling her “selfish and tight-fisted,” and insisted that she was “putting our future on hold just to save money.”

The original poster (OP) says that the conversation soon became a “shouting match,” and that her boyfriend proceeded to “[drag] up every little expense I’d ever made in the past, trying to paint me as someone who’s always been too cheap.”

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“In the days that followed, things got even more intense,” she continued, adding, “He started telling our friends that I didn’t care about our relationship and was being miserly, basically trying to guilt-trip me into changing my mind. It became clear that this wasn’t really about the renovation at all—it was about control and how he sees our future together.”

The woman says that she has since decided to end her relationship, writing: “I can’t let someone who doesn’t respect my choices or my financial plans stay in my life, especially when it all comes down to him trying to control what I do with my own money.”

However,  the OP says that some of her friends have told her that she overreacted, saying that “relationships sometimes require compromise.”

“AIO [am I overreacting]?” she concluded her post.

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The post sparked much discussion among Reddit users, with the vast majority of commenters telling the OP that she should trust her instincts on this one.

“Nope, not overreacting. It’s not his money, and he wanted to control it,” wrote one person.

“OMG red flag! You’re not married, it’s not his money, and he is trying to manipulate you. You’re right to break it off. GOOD FOR YOU!” said another.

Another Redditor noted that bringing their mutual friends into the disagreement was yet another red flag.

“NOR [not overreacting],” they wrote, adding, “He didn’t get his way then took it to your friends. That’s immature behavior on his part and a glimpse into what life will be with him moving forward when he doesn’t get his way. Paying off debts and investing for your future isn’t selfish. The fact that he’d rather use 12K on unnecessary renovations shows he is not financially smart.”